Dealing with a Child–studies

A sweet lady, a mother has asked me to write on this sensitive topic which parents conceal, lie about, brag about and have difficulties coping with. A child who loses interest in his academic pursuits once in a while is a ‘normal’ child. A child who does not regain interest poses a serious problem for himself and those who care.

Geniuses and famous people may be high school drop outs but there are many more who have succeeded by studying according to a structured curriculum.A few simple steps for a bored-with-studies-child are:

  • Get an aptitude test done, maybe the child is better at other things
  • Test the IQ of the child, know what to expect from him
  • Sit with the child, show interest in his work
  • Study the same chapter he has difficulty with and grade each other on a test
  • Encourage him to understand, using different books and demonstrate applications of the learning eg experiments in Physics such as making a circuit to light a bulb
  • Talk to the child, it may be because of bullying
  • Talk to the teacher
  • Never compare the child to other’s children
  • Socialize with the parents of some other children in his class and discuss the school and teachers
  • Use highlighters to draw attention to important points
  • Monitor the internet access and limit it without it being obvious
  • Encourage Physical exercise, try to cater to his taste and incorporate family outings
  • Encourage with rewards ( don’t listen to the experts!!), allow phone time of 10 mins for a chapter well learned
  • Tell the child you will show affection in the school unless he concentrates more!!! (works wonders, say it with humour and love in the atmosphere of your home)                                                    Every child and parent are different. The child may have learning disabilities, which will be reflected on the IQ test. If he was born after suffering hypoxia(low oxygen), there may be minimal brain damage, He may be bored and need encouragement. Spending time with him while he studies like sitting in his room, reading, or studying the same chapters as him can work well. Removing distractions and depriving him of 24/7 phone and internet services can not harm him (you have to give up these too, at least for a few hours a day). Every child can not be a ‘topper’, were you??? Even if you were, don’t expect it of him…..What you can expect is for the child to do his personal best, with a happy and nurturing atmosphere at  home. Love unconditionally, encourage, support…and never use physical violence, 
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  • If nothing works, get professional help. 

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The Elders vs the newly hatched

Humans defy the theory of ‘survival of the fittest’ because they shield, feed, love and nurture their young. Too often we see that they do not respect, love, have time for or spare a moment for their elders. The elders may not have taut skin or puppy eyes or invoke a protective instinct, but they are the one who are responsible for our very existence, for protecting us from the world and ourselves.

Why do we…………..

  1. Forget that they would do anything for us, anytime, anywhere
  2. Not show the patience they showed us when we stumbled, faltered, were slow to learn the most basic, simple tasks
  3. Not understand they are the future us..and our children are watching and learning from us
  4. Not allow our offspring to learn from them and love them as much as they love us
  5. Become selfish beasts, who vacation with our offspring, forgetting all the vacations we have been treated to by those whom we ignore
  6. Shed compassion and love when it is inconvenient
  7. Calculate who can benefit us
  8. Not see the love and wisdom in our elder’s eyes
  9. Not enjoy both generations senior and junior to us equally
  10. Want to live if we can not love the ones who gave us the biggest gift of all…our life

Take a moment to reflect, do not expect anything from anyone, but recognize that we are here on this planet as humans to cherish relationships more than any other species…..spare a smile, a hug, a kiss for the people who held us through decades and gave us unconditional love……….

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Auntiehood Rules

No, you shall not, can not and will not call me Auntie…….if you fall into ANY of the following categories : ( if you do not have a weird sense of humour, please stop reading right now)!!!!

  1. If you are married…no matter how old you are
  2. If you have a child
  3. if you can vote
  4. if you can drive
  5. If you are educated 
  6. if you have/ had amazing parents
  7. If you do not know me personally–in real life
  8. if you and I are somehow connected only through social media
  9. If you have grey hair
  10. If any tooth has fallen out/ has a filling!!!!

Here is what you can call me…..Manisha, Doctor, Professor, Ma’am…..I have worked very hard to get where I am and am lucky to be old……………..I would rather celebrate that fact than be defined by it……….those who have known me in my childhood and youth…actually anyone..can call me Mini (my parents named me that, it was later used as a nickname)… I use the A word for people in my real life, whom I have known since childhood……Aunty M will be everybody’s Aunt if and when she has a grandchild……( subject to change)!!

 


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Path to heaven !!

In the last village on the Indo-Tibet/ China border, is a village called Mana. At the place this village ends, one can see a rocky path going towards the mountains in the distance. It appears to have been fashioned within the mountains. It is called the path to heaven. According to Hindu Mythology, the Pandavas went on this route to reach heaven!! Walking on this path takes one on a difficult trek upwards for 8 kilometers. At this point, one seems to have reached the clouds, there is nothing but mist all around. I guess one has to wait to die to go beyond this point which is at an extremely high altitude. A beautiful and serene path, that allows one to reflect on life and connect with one’s soul…..

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Research and development…6 new orchids from this facility!!!

Somewhere in the North-eastern part of India, in a remote yet picturesque location, new orchids are being gifted to the world!!!! So far, 6 new types of orchids have been discovered/ created here……among the many orchids there, one sees the smallest orchid in the world, the dancing lady orchids, the Ladies slipper orchid…………..and…………a brand new kind of orchid which has yet to be shared with the world!!!!! 


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Super moon, March 19,2011

IMG_0382 IMG_0383 IMG_0385I was boarding an international flight, excited and happy. Sitting in the lounge, I looked at the television…and sat bolt upright, It was being announced that it was a day that a Super Moon would be sighted, an ongoing heated discussion was taking place as to whether natural disasters were more likely to occur on the days of a Super Moon!!!!! The super moon on that day,  March 19th, 2011 was ‘extra special’ as it was a ‘super perigee moon’ which is seen once in almost two decades. 

I used the best tool at hand…’Google Baba’ to find out what a super moon was—it directed me to Wikipedia which said that “A supermoon is the coincidence of a full moon or a new moon with the closest approach the Moon makes to the Earth on its elliptical orbit, resulting in the largest apparent size of the lunar disk as seen from Earth. The technical name is the perigee-syzygy of the Earth-Moon-Sun system. The term “supermoon” is not astronomical, but originated in modern astrology. The association of the Moon with both oceanic and crustal tides has led to claims that the supermoon phenomenon may be associated with increased risk of events such as earthquakes and volcanic eruptions, but the evidence of such a link is widely held to be unconvincing.”

I chose to be unconvinced about a super moon causing disasters and to fly to watch the super moon with my family in another country to take pictures of the moon.


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The orchids in our home

They are captivating, mood-uplifting, delicate…..yet a single bloom lasts for months……


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Couple of Indian Robins

She flew above him, just out of reach…he sang to her, she perched on a pole above him….( the avian version of pole dancing??)…..they spoke, they sang……she flew away, he followed……conversations are special, and in a language the same species understands 🙂 


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Spice up yogurt

Yogurt is one of the healthiest foods…..especially if you make your own from milk. Take full cream milk , boil it, cool and refrigerate. After 6 hours, remove the thick layer of delicious cream, heat the milk, add a dash of yogurt and cover for 5 hours….your healthy yogurt is ready!! Considering the health benefits of yogurt, one can spice it up for added taste and health. Add boiled and shredded bottle gourd to yogurt. Mix well and add a mixture of salt, roasted and ground cumin, black pepper and red chill flakes. Enjoy!!

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Priorities alter focus and vision

In these 2 pictures from our backyard, we see different flowers in the same area…….the possible, commonest responses would be,…

  1. Focus on the white flower (since we planted all the flowers and vegetables, we know it is a bottle gourd flower)
  2. Focus on the pretty pink lily
  3. Focus on each individually….

In life, we are sometimes more focused on the utility/ value of a person or object,……..sometimes we can not look beyond good looks,….and sometimes we appreciate each person or thing for the value it holds, as no two living beings/ things can really be compared to each other…..and some can look around and see unopened buds of both as well…..


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