Category Archives: Here and There

We get used to accepting the crap that flies around us. It’s time to take notice, be aware, and bring about change. We also get used to hurrying, not looking around at the unexpected glory of our surroundings as we race to yet another destination.

Necessity and Innovation

Necessity is the mother of innovation…..check out these cool wheels!!! This contraption can be used as easily in the fields as on the highway….


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Celebrating a birthday….

My new year begins with my birthday!!!!!! It’s a day I generally spend with family only….. what makes my day special is…

  1. Thanking my parents in my heart, mind and soul and praying for them to be my parents in every lifetime on earth.
  2. Thanking the powers-that-be for allowing me to experience life and praying for my sister, husband and child to remain as they are and be with me in every life.
  3. Letting go of any annoyance anyone caused me and NOT wasting time thinking of any negative people or event.
  4. Making a new start, but carrying forward the positives (people and events) in my life.
  5. Buying and giving a few things  away to people as gifts who are less privileged. 
  6. Being a child…celebrating the fact that I was born.
  7. Singing and dancing and eating all the sweets and chocolate I can.
  8. Smiling….not whining about getting older, but enjoying the fact that I have lived another year, a lot of people do not have that privilege.
  9. My resolution each year is to smile a little more, rave and rant at issues that need attention a little louder, do a little more for those who need my help.
  10. Each year, I care a little less about what others think of me, each year I want to impress myself with my actions….one day I will, may God let me live that long 🙂                  May the powers that be give health and mental, physical, spiritual health to my family and keep us connected. 🙂

Counting my blessings today….

  • Cut a cake on the eve of my entry into the world, and at the stroke of midnight with my loved ones…..with the child being able to share the moment through the internet…..
  • Didn’t sleep at all as we had a pre-sunrise flight to paradise 
  • I can walk, talk, eat and laugh today……I have lived another year….that is a miracle
  • I am super excited!!! and full of energy…can’t walk, can only run/ dance—-yup, the chocolates and sugar are responsible…
  • I have the support of those I love, which makes me vocal and free to express my opinion
  • I work, I earn….I give 
  • I have fat….will survive a drought 
  • I have family and friends who praise and criticise me to my face
  • I known what ‘crazy love’ is………

The picture with the rainbow was taken near our home in an enchanted forest……


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The early worm gets to thrive!!

With the first ray of morning light in our garden, birds sing, butterflies fly, flowers bloom…and worms wriggle….this green worm/ caterpillar caught my eye, it seemed to be climbing on a single fibril !!! it contorted, worked its way painstakingly uphill towards the bark of our Moringa tree…..I watched and wondered if it would ever make it, if I should assist it by using a leaf…it did not give up and made it on its own…..today the Green Wriggler was more beautiful than the peacock which was roaming in our garden….The Green-conqueror-of-the-tree is an inspiration….

 


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Medical doctors do not like to hear these:

Just because we followed our passion and dreams and try our best to help the ill….does not mean that we are infallible and indestructible …..The large majority of patients I have seen have been wonderful and I am grateful for them. But there are others…..here is what people have said to me over the ages…..

  • How can you be Ill???? you’re a doctor!!!!!!
  • You are an ophthalmologist…hmmm…..so , I have this pain in my shoulder..!!!!!!
  • Why don’t you try herbs for healing cataract??????
  • Why were you on leave the last time I came for a consultation???
  • There is a Guru who heals by a touch…..
  • I just googled my symptoms, now tell me…
  • Why did you not ‘make’ your son a doctor???
  • I want your opinion on this prescription I got…..
  • Just explain what you study in Ophthalmology…..

And so on……

Apart from this, they expect us to be on duty 24/7, 365 days a year, for our whole lives!!!!

We are not supposed to party/ travel/ have a life….

We are supposed to answer ALL phone calls at all times of the day or night….

 


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The benefits of ‘maturity’

Oh, what a joy is an age that is beyond youth…..I enjoy the age where we have people elder than us and younger than us…some of the joys are:

  1. Being able to pretend you don’t remember someone or something
  2. Pretending you can’t life a heavy load
  3. Pretending you can’t read without your glasses
  4. Being abrupt and direct
  5. Laughing uninhibitedly and saying what you want 
  6. Dancing and singing in an extremely non-gifted manner ( by now, one knows that nobody is watching )
  7. Being the first on and the last off a dance floor!!!
  8. Getting drenched in the rain
  9. Wearing comfortable shoes and clothes ( yup, comfy is now a good word)
  10. Exiting whatsapp groups, blocking, stalking, talking ….

The list is endless, the joys are too….explore, indulge, work hard, play hard…..


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10 ways we annoy our child…..

Being a part of the human race, we want the best for our child….do we always go about it the right way, or does our approach become counterproductive???? Some of the things which annoy a child are talking about………….

  • The troubles we faced when growing up and how today’s children are so privileged
  • The achievements of other’s children…do we want to hear about the wonderful things other children’s parents do?
  • Future plans of the child, their aim in life
  • How they should not waste their time on the computer and other gadgets!!!! Can we set an example???
  • How their best BFF is not good enough for them
  • How junk food has ruined the world….errrr, lay off the fried stuff you love first
  • Their posture, attitude…..what about your own??
  • Lying…..haven’t we lied in front of them?
  • Your spouse in a negative way…..never involve the child
  • Work, job opportunities, how wrong their choice of a career is..they are under enough pressure                                       

What do we do??? We have to guide our child……let’s try to be appreciate of the effort he/she is putting into the curriculum. Lead by example by eating better, using your time with your family better, treating your spouse better, encouraging a dialogue instead of launching into a monologue. They are informed and may impress you with their point of view…….Encourage, support, monitor and be strict only when required.


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Dealing with toxic people

We all have them in our lives. They come in the form of acquaintances, relatives, colleagues or peers. One can not pay them back in the same coin of utter obnoxiousness, hence one has to devise unique ways of dealing with them. I’m not speaking of the run of the mill rude people who can be ignored easily. I’m speaking of the evil genius people who know your weaknesses and make sure they hit at a vulnerable place repeatedly till they elicit a response and then proceed to sermonize you on how to behave, loudly and publicly. These are the people who are there in your life and will be there for a long time. This is what works for me:

  1. Do not initiate a conversation. If they speak to you, pretend to listen carefully while you remember a favourite song that makes you happy.
  2. Smile at them, no matter how caustic their remarks. It annoys them to an extent that they will back off.
  3. Remind yourself that they do not matter to you, their opinion is of no consequence.
  4. Wear your favourite clothes, perfume, shoes, which you can think of when they spew their venom.
  5. Life is not long enough to pay attention to negative comments.
  6. Everybody can’t like you, accept it and don’t let it affect you.
  7. These people are important, they make the other people in your life extra special!!!!!!!!!!!!
  8. Do not argue with them.
  9. Act dumb, smile as if you do not understand the sarcasm behind their barbs.
  10. If nothing else works, think of them straining in the toilet, constipated. Never fails!!!!!!!!!!!            Life is too short, nobody can pull you down if you won’t let them. Stop trying to impress or care about people who can never be your well wishers.                                                                                                         IMG_5293

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Auntiehood Rules

No, you shall not, can not and will not call me Auntie…….if you fall into ANY of the following categories : ( if you do not have a weird sense of humour, please stop reading right now)!!!!

  1. If you are married…no matter how old you are
  2. If you have a child
  3. if you can vote
  4. if you can drive
  5. If you are educated 
  6. if you have/ had amazing parents
  7. If you do not know me personally–in real life
  8. if you and I are somehow connected only through social media
  9. If you have grey hair
  10. If any tooth has fallen out/ has a filling!!!!

Here is what you can call me…..Manisha, Doctor, Professor, Ma’am…..I have worked very hard to get where I am and am lucky to be old……………..I would rather celebrate that fact than be defined by it……….those who have known me in my childhood and youth…actually anyone..can call me Mini (my parents named me that, it was later used as a nickname)… I use the A word for people in my real life, whom I have known since childhood……Aunty M will be everybody’s Aunt if and when she has a grandchild……( subject to change)!!

 


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Sniffing a mate…..God ‘nose’ it’s true

Why do certain odors make us long for more, while others make us nauseous??? We use our sense of smell (one of our special senses) to sniff out a new perfume, roses, food, and…….a mate!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There have been innumerable reports about sniffing out a partner and the ‘compatibility gene’. There have been smelly t-shirt parties and our pheromones have been analysed in minute detail. The reason I thought of writing this is because it’s raining outside and I went out to get drenched and opened my nostrils wide to take in as much of the smell of wet earth as I could before my lungs became water-logged 🙂 

Smelly t-shirt ? yes, it is when a person wears the same t-shirt for 2-3 days, without ever taking it off. Alcohol, smoking, perfume or other odor-altering agents are not allowed during this period. The t-shirt is then put in a plastic bag, which is sniffed by the opposite sex to select a mate…………there appears to be a scientific basis for this. We have all heard of histocompatibility …the short arm of chromosome 6 determines whether you are attractive to another human being. People have been tested for mutual attractiveness. This test also tells us a bit about our origin, race and heritage.

Major histocompatibility genes (MHC) are actually used to find a perfect mate/ match!!! A match is no longer made in heaven, but in a laboratory. Welcome to the modern age of dating and mating, 

Throw out the deodorants, the fancy soaps and wear sweaty t-shirts ??? One good thing that comes out of this that smoking, alcohol should not be indulged in if you want your mate to sniff you out. Pheromones are secreted by us which ‘alter’ the behaviour of other living beings towards us…yes, they are being sold as a spray-on in tiny, expensive bottles.

One day they will find a way to allow others to sniff to sniff you over the internet 🙂 Those with huge noses, stop complaining, use them well. Meanwhile, I am stepping out to smell the wet earth again, after which I will enjoy my trip to the filling station as petrol smells awesome to me……..blame it on the genes 🙂 And think again before you casually remark to someone ‘You smell so good’……………………


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Prince of the Pond….Lotus and lilies

In a small village in Tamil Nadu, India, there was an enchanted lotus pond. It was always full of the most beautiful lotus flowers. The flowers were of a colour that had shades of pink, but when you looked closely enough, you could visualize a rainbow in it. There were a few water lilies too. The pond was by the side of a large tamarind tree. Once an elderly woman was passing by in her air-conditioned vehicle to go to an ‘important’ place. She happened to look at the pond and asked the driver to stop. Before she could be warned about the dangers of going into uncharted waters alone, she was at the steps leading down to the pond, taking pictures of the lotus and lilies like one possessed. There was not a soul in sight. She repeated the adventure the next morning, this time there was someone swimming in ‘her’ pond!!!! Before she could protest, the young man swam towards her and scooped up an armful of the most beautiful and precious lotus flowers and lilies and handed them to her, telling her it was a gift……..Yes, miracles and wonderful people exist in this world……a person who can make another smile has succeeded in the mission of life…..not too far away, there were a lot of prosperous people ‘meditating’ and enforcing ‘restricted entry’ into their premises, where appointments were sought,and too much time spent in the pursuit of that achieved by the ‘less privileged’ villagers close to them……..DSC04402 DSC04399 DSC04389 DSC04247 DSC04406 DSC04408

Try not to flock to places where enlightenment is being talked about….it is being practiced by some who do not preach about it………..


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