Category Archives: Social Media

Chatting online—Care or Scare??

The internet is amazing, though it has it’s advantages and disadvantages. None of us are perfect, we continue to learn till our last breath. There are stages of being on social media, no matter what age or level of maturity we have….(this applies to the majority of the human population, not the saints or the demons!)….

  1. Stage 1–Oooh, I have a friend request, how nice! Let me send some of these happy moments to the people I know…and the people they know 🙂
  2. Stage 2–Hmm, people are not what they seem on the surface, maybe I should be more cautious.
  3. Stage 3–What the Hell !!! Who are these people? how did I not see that they would be like this!!! Time to unfriend a few….wait, let me see how to do that.
  4. Stage 4–all problems solved–There is a wonderful feature–the Block option!!          

Be careful—be very careful….be paranoid. Children are especially susceptible, they are naturally good and innocent and predators know precisely what to say and do to win them over. While we imagine we are all unique, most humans are prone to ‘appreciation’ and respond well to undue attention. What you need to know before you chat and use the ‘awesome’ free video calls and chats…..

  1. If someone is admiring you and noticing things that you do and say online, he/she is admiring ALL other people in the universe for the ‘very same amazing and unique’ qualities.
  2. If they say that you look beautiful and are super-intelligent, or that you have a great taste in music or send you pictures of puppies or flowers every morning….you are just one of the many they have targeted …in their mind, you are ‘pathetic, attention seeking and vulnerable’.
  3. You may confide details about your family , your views, your workplace, your dreams to these people who will use it against you.
  4.   Why are people targeting others? may be a need to manipulate, to be desired…or to get details to figure out your passwords and hack into your bank account, or to stalk your children.
  5. What should you do? I’m neither very cerebral or worldly wise, but I do know that you should never video chat, editing can cause havoc with what you have said and done. If someone is too involved in your life, tell them about your partner and bore them to death!!! Ask about their parent/ partner/ job….it scares them off really fast.
  6. There are wonderful people out there, take time to get to know the medium of communication you are using, try to have strictly public interactions and enjoy virtual surfing without drowning and hurting yourself and those you cherish. 
  • Anything said or done on the internet can never be fully erased…before you do or say something, ask yourself….’Am I willing to share this with the galaxy?’
  • Share your passwords with your partner and let the world know you are doing that..works wonders. 

Happy surfing!!!

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Dealing with a Child–studies

A sweet lady, a mother has asked me to write on this sensitive topic which parents conceal, lie about, brag about and have difficulties coping with. A child who loses interest in his academic pursuits once in a while is a ‘normal’ child. A child who does not regain interest poses a serious problem for himself and those who care.

Geniuses and famous people may be high school drop outs but there are many more who have succeeded by studying according to a structured curriculum.A few simple steps for a bored-with-studies-child are:

  • Get an aptitude test done, maybe the child is better at other things
  • Test the IQ of the child, know what to expect from him
  • Sit with the child, show interest in his work
  • Study the same chapter he has difficulty with and grade each other on a test
  • Encourage him to understand, using different books and demonstrate applications of the learning eg experiments in Physics such as making a circuit to light a bulb
  • Talk to the child, it may be because of bullying
  • Talk to the teacher
  • Never compare the child to other’s children
  • Socialize with the parents of some other children in his class and discuss the school and teachers
  • Use highlighters to draw attention to important points
  • Monitor the internet access and limit it without it being obvious
  • Encourage Physical exercise, try to cater to his taste and incorporate family outings
  • Encourage with rewards ( don’t listen to the experts!!), allow phone time of 10 mins for a chapter well learned
  • Tell the child you will show affection in the school unless he concentrates more!!! (works wonders, say it with humour and love in the atmosphere of your home)                                                    Every child and parent are different. The child may have learning disabilities, which will be reflected on the IQ test. If he was born after suffering hypoxia(low oxygen), there may be minimal brain damage, He may be bored and need encouragement. Spending time with him while he studies like sitting in his room, reading, or studying the same chapters as him can work well. Removing distractions and depriving him of 24/7 phone and internet services can not harm him (you have to give up these too, at least for a few hours a day). Every child can not be a ‘topper’, were you??? Even if you were, don’t expect it of him…..What you can expect is for the child to do his personal best, with a happy and nurturing atmosphere at  home. Love unconditionally, encourage, support…and never use physical violence, 
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  • If nothing works, get professional help. 

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Dealing with **** on social media

There is a huge advantage to dealing with **** on social media as apposed to real life…as long as you are not the kind to constantly video chat or send ‘those pics’!!! Then the **** has hit the fan…………

For those who feel ‘old’ women are not stalked/ pursued…..think again…..there are ‘fans’ of every person, big or small, beautiful or ugly, in every age group, in every region of the world…….we all have a formula for dealing with stuff…here is my way, I would love to learn what others do……here is what annoys me and what I do…..

  • Annoying, daily messages with flowers, etc etc from men (women have not done so, yet)………I am not anybody to you and you are not anybody who actually exists for me….I have removed the messenger on my phone..problem solved 🙂 There are some who feel middle-aged or over-the-hill women will be flattered easily…in a way, these messages of ‘extreme praise’ insult my intelligence…and looks! 🙂 
  • Sending only private msgs, attempting to call, whatsapp, etc…….sans ANY interaction on my wall….I have given my family my password and generally use social media in full view of my family, when we all catch up official/ personal work
  • Watching, lurking, never interacting…..it is polite to wish each other’s families when we put up a ‘brag post’ or a homecoming or birthday post….if the person is a prolific post-er, I get tired of the ha-ha, or the wow I keep putting on their wall in reaction to their clothes, food, home, kids, car, etc……if they never reciprocate….rejoice!!! you can let go, just un-follow them 🙂 
  • There are those who are inactive on social media, and those who are much older and those I know in real life…..I do not bear them any grudge…if they were to nuke all my posts …I would still respect them……
  • Family time begins….gadgets down, barriers down……………..have fun, everyone who has made it through this…..

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Are we ‘exposing’ our children to predators on social media?

We are not speaking of normal or nice people. We are discussing predators who lie, impersonate others, mislead, track, stalk, kidnap…and much worse. On the prowl, they find that the Internet is a rich hunting ground with information that leads them to their ‘prey’.

Before we shake our head in disgust and say we have ‘privacy settings’ or that we have only ‘good’ people in our contacts, think again.

Some things that we all do, which can endanger our child:

  • Posting pictures of our innocent and cuddly toddlers or any child in a swimsuit or half-clad pictures (remember we are talking about psychos, paedophiles and sickos targeting them)
  • Using the ‘location’ services by which our kids can be tracked
  • Posting pictures of a school/ college function, which gives away their location
  • Playground pics with a map
  • Travel pics which are ‘immediately’ uploaded describing where we are, and what we are doing
  • Making a fake ‘adult’ profile for a child
  • Home pictures with location enabled
  • Auto-uploading of pics
  • Posting videos of the child
  • The name, age, sex of the child
  • A school/ college trip they have to gone to
  • A summer job in another country
  • Posting of pics of cosy romantic dinners at which the couple are without the children….the children are at the home we have described through other pics!!!

Yes, basically anything !!!! the people stalking you are keeping track, some of them may be ‘decent’ folk that you know in real life…remember abuse is frequently carried out by a person you know.

Apart from the proud parents, who put their children at risk simply because they cannot comprehend anybody misreading the innocent pictures and posts….

There are the seriously dangerous parents who endanger their children to upload videos of their children crying without comforting them so that they get a ‘great video’ which can go ‘viral’, pictures of their children being hurt or abused and sell their children’s pictures and do unimaginable things…that is another category altogether.

The next time we want to appreciate our child, let’s try to keep it to family and friends, off social media. Happy parenting !!

 


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Hurray FB Friends

I spoke about interacting….you led by example…I am humbled, grateful…..I have replied individually to 116 of you…..thank you….this bird shows what we are feeling…walking on air….:)

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New year resolutions to be happier

My new year resolutions are not about less eating and more exercising, that is a war to be fought everyday, in a way that makes you happy and fit. Who said it was easy?? The best things in life are tough, but worth it…..So what does one wish for at the turn of a year??

  1. I wish to treasure every minute of family time even more, shunning social networks even more in the time of togetherness.
  2. Eat what I enjoy, and try tiny portions of sinful food, before I gorge on it, to make sure I love it, instead of piling on food and eating it because children are starving in many parts of the world.
  3. Donate larger sums to people who work for us, and for their children.
  4. Interact mostly with those who make me happy, I’m close to the exit door of life, each moment is a bonus. 
  5. Ignore those who ignore me, be ruder than people are to me and nicer that they are too.
  6. Walk out in the middle of a movie and throw a book away if they do not excite me or make me laugh.
  7. Keep loving those in my family who love me and look right through those who do not.
  8. Love with the condition that the loves ones should reciprocate and never betray my trust or love.
  9. Continue being monogamous, there is nothing better or more enjoyable 🙂
  10. Keep writing, because I enjoy it.
  11. Travel more to places far from popular destinations, away from crowded areas.
  12. Keep voicing my opinion, while trying to see the point of view of those I love.
  13. Keep saying ‘I love you’ several times a day to those I actually love.
  14. Make liberal use of blocking options on my phone and social networks.
  15. Look even less in the mirror and look within more…………

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Ah! the Inbox on FB

When you meet a CAD on FB


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Mark it on FB

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Fire-Wall???

Instead of all is well….

Should we say…..’All is Wall”???

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When it is time to end a relationship???

Some people are like Crabs, pulling you down. Move on…

When do you know it’s time to let go, before you hurt yourself or waste any more time? Life does come with an exit date! Here are some pointers….

  1. If you are the only one who has called for the last 10 times…
  2. If you are the one who has visited the last 10 times, it’s over…
  3. If they cut short most conversations with “I gotta go”, and do not call back later, let them go forever…
  4. When they turn their back to you at social events to talk to others….
  5. When you keep texting without a reply, stop….
  6. When they look only at others passing by while you are with them…..
  7. When you share your life and its secrets, and get nothing in return……
  8. When they look at you disapprovingly all the time….
  9. When they stop listening and say “what?” when asked a question…..’Pardon’ is even more distant than ‘what’ !!!!
  10. When they smile only at their phone and text others when they are with you…..                                 DSC_0312
  11. Some people are like crabs…they may be your colleagues, partners, friends, relatives or siblings….If they behave like they are doing you a favor by being with you, or talking to you, or spending time with you, they pull you down….walk out, and do not look back….Life is short, we never know when we are going to exit, enjoy the time that is left by being with yourself and those who appreciate you.
  12. Too often we follow those who do not care about us, while we ignore those who gaze lovingly at us, unconditionally supporting us and ready to help, while giving us advice and an honest opinion when asked. Treasure them and hang on to them before they tire of you and leave. Stop being a fan or a follower….
  13. Be happy, you are special, though there is always scope for improvement, nobody knows you better than you. Be kind to yourself, keep learning something every day, smile often. Be with those who laugh with you, get rid of the pseudos and psychos….it’s better to be on your own than with constantly unappreciative people.
  14. Do NOT consider friendships on social media as real, enjoy them while realising they are not the ones who will wipe your tears, blood, or mucus..if need be. Do not chat intimately with strangers, or pour your heart out ( texts, pictures and conversations can be saved on all media and used against you later).
  15. On social media, write and post whatever you can admit to, on international television…:) Block those who are over-appreciative or saccharine sweet 24/7…nobody is that good to deserve adulation incessantly….snap ties with those who want to meet you ‘alone’…….Cheers, enjoy life while it lasts…

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